You may hear people say that Jesus is all about relationships and not religion. Even if you have never heard someone say this, it has had an impact on many people who call themselves Christians, or consider themselves “saved.” Here is what people who say this believe.
“Religion can be very different than having a Relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Religions are man made, and are based on trying to get to God through rules and regulations and works. Man made religions all are based on people’s efforts at reaching God and being made right with Him through their own efforts. God’s plan for man’s salvation and for being right with Him is told throughout the Bible, in the Old Testament and the New Testament. God’s plan is not based on people’s efforts and good works, but is based on His amazing Love and amazing Grace for us; His plan involved His precious Son Jesus paying the price and cost for our sins on the cross. You need to put ALL of your trust and faith in Jesus and in what He did for us on the cross, and not in any religion or in your own efforts. Simply put all of your trust and faith in Jesus, and accept His gift of salvation and eternal life, and experience the joy of having a right RELATIONSHIP of love with God.”
- Source: http://www.intimacywithgod.com/religion.html

The idea here is that “religion” is a stumbling block to having a “relationship” with Jesus. These people would probably argue that organized religion is unnecessary. They would say that all I need is “me and Jesus.” Or, they may say something similar too, “I can worship Jesus anywhere, in a boat fishing, or a deer stand, or driving, I don’t need to go to any particular Church.”
Now, elements of this are true, and that is what makes it so dangerous to people’s souls. It is true that, in some cases, people can get so caught up in the programs, activities, ministries, and routine of going to Church that they may loose sight of their relationship with Jesus. However, I say, and Jesus says, you cannot have a real relationship with him without the Church. Consider the following words of Jesus from the Gospel of St. Matthew, chapter 16, verses 18 and 19.
18And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. 19And I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
In Jesus’ own words he said “I will build my church.” That means that Jesus came to build a Church. This means that the idea that a relationship with Jesus can be had independent of the Church was not what Jesus had in mind. Jesus told his apostle Peter that he would be the leader of the Church. He promised that he would be the rock upon which the Church would be built, and he gave the keys of the kingdom of the Church to Peter. The keys are symbols of authority. Jesus also promised that the Church would never fall to the assaults of the devil. The Church, to Jesus, is important.
The question then is what is the Church? The Church is not the building, or the “denomination” but it is the people who are in a relationship with Jesus. These people, as all sorts of groups of people do, are organized into local congregations or chapters, called churches, which have rules, buildings, leaders, etc for the sake of unity and supporting one another. These congregations and their leaders must also be under the authority of Peter through his successors. St. Paul the Apostle, in the following passage of the Bible (Ephesians 5) compares the relationship that Jesus has with his Church (the people as a whole) to the relationship a man has with his wife.
25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
When we think of Jesus’ love for us we should immediately think of the Cross. We can remember the familiar passage from John 3:16 that says “God so loved the world that he gave his only Son…” How was the Son of God given to the world? He was given as a sacrifice on the Cross. He died so that our sins could be forgiven, so that we could be brought into a relationship with God, and so that we could be brought into a truer relationship with each other by our relationship with God. It only stands to reason that as people move closer to God they will also move closer to one another. In Jesus our relationship with God becomes stronger and deeper and our relationships with our loved ones can do the same, in God. As the apostle Paul says, Jesus loved the Church so much that he gave himself up (died) for her. This is how a man is supposed to love his wife, and this can be compared to Jesus’ love for us. He did this so he could “sanctify and cleanse it with washing of water by the word…” Jesus died so he could cleanse his people, the Church, with a washing of water. Sounds like baptism huh? Here is what Jesus says about baptism in John 3, which is the same chapter the famous “John 3:16” is found.
3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Truly, truly, I say unto thee, Except one be born again, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. 4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother’s womb, and be born? 5 Jesus answered, Truly, truly, I say unto thee, Except one be born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God!
Jesus is having a conversation with a Jew who basically asked him how he can be saved and enter the Church. Jesus tells him he needs to be born again. The Jew, confused, asked how, because he knew he couldn’t literally be born a second time from his mother. Jesus had to explain what it means to be “born again.” Jesus says that no one can enter the kingdom, the Church, or “be saved” or “born again” unless he is born of water and the Spirit. This means that you cannot be saved unless you are baptized. That may sound strange because so many times you will hear the opposite, but read Jesus’ words again. That is exactly what he is saying. Logically, also, you cannot be saved unless you are part of the Church, because baptism is the ticket of entry into the Church, which Jesus loves and gives himself to completely in love as a husband would his wife. The loving relationship is therefore found in the Church, the Bride of Christ.
This “washing of water” or baptism, is not simply symbolic, according to the words of Paul in the passage from Ephesians. If you look at the passage again you will see that it says that this washing makes it possible for Jesus to essentially be able to marry a virgin bride. The washing lets Jesus take a bride “not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” Baptism then washes away original sin in our lives, and actual sin, up to the point of baptism. Just as the water washes over our body the Spirit washes over our soul and purifies us from sin. We are forgiven and saved through baptism. You see, baptism is not just being washed in water, but also washed in the Holy Spirit. Some people say that the baptism of water and the baptism in the Holy Spirit, or Holy Ghost, are different events. They say that if you are saved that you speak in tongues and that is the baptism of the Holy Spirit. This is false. The Bible never says everyone must speak in tongues. Jesus never did! Here is what the Bible says about baptism in the Spirit.
3 For we also once were foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving diverse lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, hating one another. 4 But when the kindness of God our Saviour, and his love toward man, appeared, 5 not by works done in righteousness, which we did ourselves, but according to his mercy he saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, 6 which he poured out upon us richly, through Jesus Christ our Saviour…
This is saying without Jesus we are foolish, disobedient, deceived … When the kindness of God appeared – Jesus and his death on the cross – his grace is given to us, as a gift, and we are saved by the washing and renewing in the Holy Spirit, which is baptism. Another example is Acts 2:38. Peter just preached to a group of Jews and they ask him how to be saved. Here is his answer.
And Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ unto the forgiveness of your sins; and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.
Peter tells them to repent, or turn toward Jesus, be baptized, and this baptism will bring forgiveness of your sins and also give you the gift of the Holy Spirit. There are more examples in the Bible, but these give you the idea.
Finally, unity with Peter is unity with Christ. If Jesus gave pastoral leadership of the Church to Peter, then unity with Peter is important in the eyes of Jesus. The successor of Peter, or the persons who have inherited his leadership role in the Church through the centuries, are the Popes. To be united to the Church Jesus founded, and to Peter, means that in today’s world, unity with Pope Benedict XVI is part of the package of the relationship with Jesus, because Pope Benedict is charged with pastoral care of the Body of Christ, the Church, for which Jesus died and lives for today.
So does Jesus want a relgion or relationship? Jesus would not have recgonized such a seperation as legitmate.